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Kudo Goals & Common Milestones

Setting Kudo Goals with your child is simple and fun. We created a kid-friendly way to set goals with your little one. The Kudo Banz “Adventures of Drago and George” storybook is an easy to use, illustrated way to introduce Kudo Banz to your child. To get started, read the book with your child. At the back of the book there is a page to note your child’s Kudo Goals. When discussing this page with your child, talk positively about what things they want to learn to do better (as opposed to what things they don’t do well). Also talk to them about how learning new things is part of growing up and will make them feel great!

It is usually best to pick one specific behavior goal to keep kids focused. Once they have mastered the 1st behavior goal, you can choose to either take a break or move onto another goal. Every kid is different, so any goal that makes parenting easier and your family happier is great!

Here are some common behavior goals for various ages:

Ages 3 and 4

Ongoing Goals:
Sharing
Eating meals
Controlling emotions (trying not to cry over little things)
Accepting “no” means “no” (reduce tantrums)
Keeping hands to yourself
Playing nicely with others
Being okay without Mommy for a bit (overcoming attachment)

New Goals:
Potty training (mainly for 3’s but 4’s for overnight control)
Getting dressed with minimum help
Getting ready for bed with minimum help
Listening on the 1st try
Using kind words
Leaving places nicely (transitioning without complaint)
Cleaning up after yourself (toys, etc)
Learning manners

Ages 5 and 6

Ongoing Goals:
Sharing
Eating meals
Controlling emotions (tears and anger)
Keeping hands to yourself
Playing nicely with others
Cleaning up after yourself
Listening on the 1st try
Leaving places nicely (transitioning without complaint)
Using kind words

New Goals:
Getting dressed with no help
Getting ready for bed with no help
Getting along nicely with siblings
Longer periods of patience / sitting still (e.g. errands, waiting in line, at school)
Following the rules at home and at school
Helping out around house a bit (putting clothes away, setting table)
Being more responsible with your “stuff” (shoes, backpacks, toys)
Using your manners consistently (please, thank you, excuse me)
Trying more new foods (less picky, less “kid food”)

Ages 7 and 8

Ongoing Goals:
Listening on the 1st try
Getting along nicely with siblings
Following the rules at home and at school
Cleaning up after yourself
Controlling emotions (tears and anger)
Using your manners consistently

New Goals:
Getting dressed and ready for bed on time
Respecting adults (esp. parents)
Being responsible for homework
Being kind to others (words and actions)
Helping out more around house (daily chores)
Eating meals without complaint
Being more aware of other people’s need (helping siblings, classmates, parents)
Increasing attention span and patience
Leaving house on-time and with all belongings needed

Ages 9 to 11

Ongoing Goals:
Listening on the 1st try
Getting along nicely with siblings
Following the rules at home and at school
Using your manners consistently
Respecting adults (esp. parents)
Being responsible for homework
Increasing attention span and patience
Leaving house on-time and with all belongings needed

New Goals:
Coping with physical and emotional changes (puberty)
Making right choices independently (w/o adult)
Being a good, kind friend (no bullying, no gossip)
Increasing awareness of others / thoughtfulness (less self-focused)
Increasing involvement of extracurriculars / volunteer activities (being a good team member)
Taking on more responsibility at home (cleaning, light cooking, yardwork)

To provide further insight, here are some developmental milestones developed by the Academy of Pediatrics and the CDC.

Ages 3-4: https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/toddler/pages/Developmental-Milestones-3-to-4-Years-Old.aspx

Ages 4-5: https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/preschool/Pages/Developmental-Milestones-4-to-5-Year-Olds.aspx

Ages 6-8: https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/childdevelopment/positiveparenting/middle.html

Ages 9-11: https://www.cdc.gov/ncbddd/childdevelopment/positiveparenting/middle2.html

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